The Hughes: Praying Big Prayers to an Even Bigger God.

This Sunday, we will wrap up our January sermon series 'Infinitely More: Praying Big Prayers to an Even Bigger God'. We pulled that language directly from Ephesians 3:20-21 "Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly (infinitely more) than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen." In it we are asking God to do this type of work in our church specifically in the areas of racial reconciliation, the sanctity of human life, the global church, and generosity. We are praying God uses this series to give you confidence to praying big pray of your own.

This is the story of Josh & Lindsey Hughes, a couple under age 30 with four kids (including two foster children) who attribute their expanding family to faithfulness, one big prayer, and a gracious Father behind it all. You might have seen Josh serving on Sunday, been under Lindsey’s leadership for women’s gatherings, or had the privilege of caring for their children in The Grove. The Hughes family is a humble one, but they have seen God do amazing things in their life. I had the distinct joy in speaking with Lindsey about how they got where they are, and ways she can encourage us in following Jesus into the foggy future.   

Kasey: Good morning, Lindsey! How are you this today? What are you doing now?

Lindsey: Oh, good! Its been a morning full of tantrums. I'm currently hiding in the room because they’re playing so well together right now. So if I have to drop the phone and run, that’s why. Big A is dressed up as Snow White, and Judah is loving it. And sweet little A is right here with me. 

Kasey: Haha yes, I totally understand. So, you have two kids of your own. You’ve suffered a miscarriage. You now have two foster children. I know it has been quite a journey getting to where you are now. Was there any specific prayer that started this whole thing? 

Lindsey: It really wasn’t a specific prayer, as much as it was small steps of obedience and a great amount of listening and being sensitive to the Holy Spirit as He guided our thoughts and path. For the last 7 years, since being married, we have been recipients of God’s grace. We have come to know His faithfulness on a raw and basic level. His faithfulness to provide in every way (financially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically). We have gone through seasons of great unknown—been forced to see how utterly not in control we are, and by the grace of God, we are learning to hand back and be openhanded with what is already His. Our entire lives serve the purpose of bringing Him glory, of obeying His calling no matter the cost. Once we reached that point, we were no longer able to ignore or distract ourselves from seeking our role in some of the ‘bigger’ calls of obedience. Nothing is off the table.

Seeking our part in orphan care changed everything we knew as familiar. We were suddenly having to move to a house (that doubled our rent), we had to move the boys into the same room, and a host of other seemingly meaningless details that preceded any actual kids coming into our home. But all of the smaller moments of obedience throughout or lives and our marriage, led us to obey in the bigger moments. Our current lives look nothing like what we've ever pictured, but it has been far better (and far harder) than we ever imagined.

Kasey: What did you imagine?

Lindsey: We never imagined having 4 kids under the age of 4 in the house. Honestly, we just lived our lives a lot differently. Our perspective has shifted from “what can we get out of this life”, to “what are we called to give through our lives.” That has changed everything and I am sure it will continue to.

Kasey: Wow, I need to adopt that phrase for my own life! So, I’m curious. When did you hear the call to foster? 

Lindsey: It was a slow thing. I don’t have a specific day or time that we heard the call. We knew it was a command to care for the orphans. We had talked about adoption (as a very very future thing that could possibly might maybe be for us to do). For a season, starting around January of 2014, every sermon I heard preached or quiet time I would have with the Lord, would have me walking away thinking about nothing else except caring for orphans. During that time, conversations with complete strangers about foster care started happening, statistics and articles about the need for foster parents would catch my eye and leave me in tears with my heart pounding. I didn’t actively start seeking the Lord for our role in it for about 6 months because I thought, “Everyone feels this way, right? Everyone cares about kids like this.” 

But it just kept coming back to mind. So when I finally opened myself up to seek and ask what our role was, there just so happened to be a DFCS foster care orientation the next week. It was no commitment needed, just get some info and see what happens. So Josh and I went. And we kept walking. And we would pause when we felt the Lord was asking us to pause. And then we would move on with the next step when He moved us into it. He shut a few doors along the way, but He opened others. We wanted to make sure it was in His timing. Obedience placed on our timing is still our striving. So 2 years later (almost to the day), we welcomed the first sweet souls into our home. At this point we knew we would need the assurance that it was God who brought us here and not ourselves. I think that really is the only way we have been able to keep going when it gets incredibly difficult—we know we are where He wants us.

Kasey: Whew. That’s good. If a woman came up to you in church and said, “I have this desire. I don’t know exactly what it is, but I know it’s burning within me, and I don’t know what to do with it.” What would you tell her? How can you encourage us to trust God more? 

Lindsey: Give it to the Lord. It is already His, but give it to Him. Seek clarity. Spend time in the Scriptures. Listen. Then, know that Satan will attack. He will use your greatest fears, your weaknesses, your good intentions and will confuse the heck out of you. He will distract you and isolate you. The enemy did very real things to try and deter us. It was (and still is) so important for us to remind ourselves that God is not a God of confusion. He wants us to find, know, seek, and do His will. When we genuinely lay our lives before the Lord and ask Him to grow us in His likeness and in obedience, He will start to bring clarity to your strengths, your weaknesses…the way you were uniquely created to fit into the bigger picture of bearing His image. I have the most beautiful print of Isaiah 26:3 {“You will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you because he trusts in you”} on a shelf in our living room. Our minds must be stayed on Him. Everything else is secondary. Knowing truth and remembering His promises frees us to pray with open hearts and step into living lives of obedience and compassion.

Kasey: Thanks so much for sharing your story, Lindsey! I know many will be encouraged by your family’s example. I, for one, am strengthened daily by your living testimony. I pray that God will continue His work in you and will bless every little one who has the honor of entering your home. We love you! 

Subscribe to Our Blog through Email