When someone becomes a member of our church, they make six promises to everyone else in the church. The last promise is a pledge to 'maintain the purity and peace of the church to the best of your ability.' Practically speaking - and we talk about this when we interview prospective members - this promise means that in moments and seasons of conflict, each of us will: 1. Assume the best about each other; 2. Refuse to gossip or talk behind someone's back; 3. Go to the person we are in conflict with directly to seek reconciliation.
[NOTE: We've adapted this idea from Walter Henegar, pastor at Atlanta Westside]